There is a great article that came out a while back the CTFD Parenting Method. CTFD stands for Calm The F**k Down and it is simple advice that I need to take to heart. In my quest to be the best stay at home dad I can be I have become too uptight in these areas and need to CTFD.
1. Noise: Loud or sudden noises sometimes freak O out including sneezes and loud coughing or throat clearing. I often hold in my sneezes or cough into a pillow as a result. I need to CTFD and remember that I am capable of calming him down when he is upset and that he has to get used to loud noises sooner rather than later.
2. Naps: My son’s nap time is my downtime/time to get stuff done and as such I want him to get a good nap in every day. That being said, I stress way too much about when and under what circumstances he goes down. I need to CTFD and realize that when he doesn’t go down right away for his nap it just means that we can go play more or do something else. Experience tells me that he’ll just pass out in the middle of whatever we’re doing so why stress about it?
3. Preparation: I have a pretty elaborate routine for when I exit the apartment with O. It includes many things like adjusting windows/shades and getting together an elaborate collection of baby related equipment that would probably allow little man and I to survive for a month in a fallout shelter . I need to CTFD and learn that all I really need when I go out into the world every day is a smile and the cutest baby ever. And diaper, lots of diapers…